Grooms Checklist

Grooms Checklist

Welcome to our ‘Grooms Checklist‘.

Now,  you’ve made the big romantic gesture, swept off her feet, wined & dined her at her favourite restaurant. Then as you are both waiting for your coffee you’ve gone down on one knee in front of everybody and presented her with an engagement ring that has her eyes water. She’s said “YES!”
So now what?

Grooms Checklist

That’s your bit done right?……..  Sit back now and let the girls get on with it, turn up on the day and say “I do” have a few beers with your mates. Get embarrassed by your best man and look forward to the wedding night?

Sorry but that is only the beginning, the real work starts if not that evening, the very next morning, but don’t worry, we have put together “This Grooms Checklist” to help you out.

It’s true, it is her day and you’ll go a long way if you practice the lines “Yes my love, I think that’s a fantastic idea” or “I want you to have the wedding day of your dreams so of course we can have …………….”. Joking aside your bride to be will need your help and support throughout the planning of your wedding, Take a look at our ‘Wedding Checklist‘ for some inspiration. If nothing else going to your bride to be with a helpful list early, will earn you lots of brownie points, asking her what tasks she would like you to take responsibility for will really have you up there (as long as you actually follow through). An old saying and one  of my favourites “Ask a man to do something and you can be sure he will, there’s no need to remind him every 6 months”.

The Grooms Checklist

Set a budget

A very important first step and one that can be easy to lose track of. Be realistic set a budget you can work within, Do you know if any of your families be contributing to the wedding costs?

The Guest List

Think about how many people you want at your wedding, this is key to think about early and it will have a knock on effect on many of the the decisions you make later. Draw up a provisional list early, you can always tweak it later but have an idea of numbers from the start

The Venue

Venue - Grooms Checklist

Think about what type of venue you both want, are you looking for the big grand wedding venue or something cosier. The number of guests you are planning to have will impact on this greatly, a big venue with 50 guests will look silly and your guests will be spread out all over the pace, in the same way, a quaint country pub is not the place to have 800 guests.
Take a look at our ‘Venue Guide‘ for some options.
Will you be having a church service, a registry office or something else?

The Boys

Grooms Checklist

Here is where the fun starts and probably some tough decisions for you. Who will you choose as your best man? Who will be your ushers? It’s not just about who are your best mates, or who will organise the best stag do. These are very important roles on the day, These men will help keep you calm and on track the morning of your wedding day, greet and look after your guests, as well as embarrass you (in good taste hopefully) during the speeches and generally help make the day run smoothly. Give them a list of jobs and responsibilities on the day, it will help the day go like clockwork.
Remember your best man is also responsible for having your wedding rings so don’t pick your mate who is always forgetting or loosing something.  He or one of your groomsmen will probably be called upon by me to arrange and gather people for the formal group photographs too, so somebody calm, confident and good at finding people is a plus.

If you are really struggling consider having best men, it’s not unusual for the role to be shared between a few of you closes friends, it helps split the responsibility and can work out really well during the speeches having a multi pronged assault on the groom.

Get suited and booted.

Once you have your boys all agreed and ready to go you need to get them suited and looking the part. Make sure you remember all the little things that go with their atire, like shoes, cufflinks and socks. A spare shirt or two is always a good idea. You’d be surprised how many times the best man spills something down his front before he’s even set off to the wedding. I’d say cufflinks are the most regally forgotten item and I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve lent mine to one of the groomsman.

Your Wedding Rings

A joint effort but I thought I’d add it to the groom’s checklist. Do you want traditional wedding rings or something a little bit unusual that might need a lot more time to source? Do you want any form of an inscription on either the inside or outside of your wedding rings? What kind of material, colour and so on?

The stag do

It’s normally up to your best man to arrange this, with help from the boys, Give him some pointers about what you really don’t want and what limits he has to work with.
It might be his best chance to wind you up but remember he is one of your best friends and will want a night for you all to remember, so have fun.

Your speech

In some cases, this is the most dreaded part of the whole process, but don’t worry, it doesn’t have to be long, clever or even that funny (the best man will take care of that at your expense). Some of the best grooms speeches I’ve heard have been heartfelt and honest.
Make sure you remember to thank everybody involved especially parents, groomsmen, your new wife and her bridesmaids.

Have a copy with you on the day, it’s a good idea to have a couple of copies just in case. Maybe have your dad keep one safe incase you lose yours.
I’ve always found it best to just have bullet points, reading a script will look and feel unnatural. Male sure you practice your speech (out load) a few times before the wedding day.
Writing your speech on the wedding morning generally never works out well.

Your honeymoon

Another joint project but with everything else your bride is arranging I thought I’d sneak this onto the groom’s checklist. There is a chance you may not have had as much say over deciding the wedding venue, so maybe this is a chance for you to have a greater say in where you two spend your honeymoon, but remember, it is your honeymoon, somewhere romantic would probably be a good start. Tickets to see your favourite football club in Paris doesn’t really count, unless your new wife if a big fan or you’re not worried about having a really short married life.

Make your own Grooms Checklist

Every wedding is different and as unique as the couple themselves. Make your own grooms checklist. Add all the things that need to be sorted out before the wedding. When they need to be done by, who is responsible or helping.
Make a note of all your wedding vendors, names, contact details, what services or product they are supplying, when they need to be paid and by when.

Have fun!

It’s your wedding, a beautifully amazing day when you marry the love of your life. sometimes during the planning, it all gets a bit overwhelming but once you are there, married, it’s all worthwhile.
Enjoy your wedding and have fun during the planning stage. Work together, it’s good practice for the rest of your lives.

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  1. Groom’s Personal Checklist – Needed Wedding Day Stuff.

    Grooms are typically forgotten about the day of the wedding. The main focus is and should be on the bride. However, there is more for the groom than just showing up. The day of the wedding is very stressful and full of to-dos. We suggest that grooms put together an overnight bag and stuff it in the car that will be at the wedding (if the scenario permits). This way, all of the groom’s personal items will be at the wedding and reception.

    Groom’s Personal Checklist
    Wedding rings
    Vows – What the groom says to the bride during the ceremony if the bridal couple will say your own. This is more than saying ‘I Do’ or ‘I Will’
    Toasts – If the groom wants to offer a toast to his bride or to the bridal couple’s guests at the wedding reception.
    Wallet (Driver’s license, Credit Cards)
    Toothbrush, toothpaste, mouthwash, breath mints
    Tuxedo or suit (with all components such as tie, jacket, vest, shirt, pants, cumberbun, belt, etc)
    Shoes, socks, underwear (with extra pairs)
    Razor (or electric shaver) and shaving cream
    Medications (Tums is also nice to have as a back-up)
    contact lenses or glasses (spare sets also recommended)
    Cash (don’t forget about tipping wedding services)
    Hair products such as gel, comb, hair spray
    Weddings are primarily planned by brides. However, our list of items not to forget for the wedding day may just save the day for the groom.

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  3. 10 things a groom should do before his wedding day

    There are countless ways grooms can get involved in wedding planning. The big ones are no surprise: Getting his suit fitted, writing his vows, and helping pick a first dance song, to name a few. Smaller gestures—like leaving notes for his bride or taking her out dancing—are less established, but make a big difference too! We asked Christina Steinbrenner, Director of Tuxedo Marketing at Brides Live Wedding sponsor Jos. A. Bank Clothiers, as well as some wise Brides staffers, for the top 10 pre-wedding “must do” list for grooms. (Psst: Brides, discreetly pass this along to your fiancés!)

    1. Pick a suit that suits the wedding style. “The most important thing for a couple to consider when planning their formal wear attire is the style and feel of the wedding,” Steinbrenner says. “For a traditional, more formal event, a classic tuxedo with a notch, shawl or peak lapel is ideal. Slim-fit silhouettes have been most popular lately. For a less traditional option, shades of gray are hugely popular. Destination or beach weddings call for a lighter gray, tan or even jacketless tuxedo.”

    2. Accessorize! Put the finishing touches on your look with a perfectly folded pocket square or fun socks for an extra pop of color, Steinbrenner says. Accessories make all the difference!

    3. Get a haircut, but not the day before. If the trim is too close, this will leave time to let it grow out.

    4. Schedule a cleaning service. Hire a cleaner for the week of your wedding and for the duration of your honeymoon. Your house or apartment will look impeccable when things get busy, and it’ll be so nice to come back to a clean home when your honeymoon is over.

    5. Go out dancing. Whether it’s going out to a bottle service club until 3:00 a.m. or just having a nice dinner at home with the first dance music ready to go, schedule an excuse to practice that choreographed first dance!

    6. Plan something special for your bride for the wedding day. It doesn’t have to be lavish—or even anything you spend a lot of money on—but something thoughtful like a letter and champagne will help make a special day even more magical. Just make sure the delivery arrives at the perfect time.

    7. Say “I love you”—often. Leave little notes everywhere. Post-its, chalkboard doodles, slips of paper under fridge magnets. This is the time to be romantic (and yes, even cheesy)!

    8. Work on your vows. Transcribe all “for vows” notes on your iPhone, and take a stab at writing something eloquent. And if the vows are already done, practice ’em.

    9. Stay on top of the rehearsal dinner. Check in with the priest/rabbi/officiant and make sure both sets of parents and all wedding party members know when and where to show up. Taking the whole party off her plate is a huge gesture and will greatly reduce her stress.

    10. Seduce her! Sex kills stress and it’ll take the edge off of the wedding night in case the reception goes all night.

  4. With all that wedding planning crowding your mind and your bride’s focus on her outfit, you might forget about all the formalwear. But looking good requires planning ahead. How to go about it? Follow this to-do timeline.

    Three Months Before
    Decide what you and your groomsmen will wear. Go tux shopping or reserve rentals for you and your posse.
    One Month Before
    If you’re buying a tux, make sure alterations are finished and go in for a final fitting. If the tux still doesn’t fit quite right, the shop will still have time to make final alterations.
    One Week Before
    Get a haircut!
    Get a manicure (no polish — just clean, buffed nails).
    Buy new boxers for the big day. Surprise your bride with something stylish.
    One Day Before
    If you’re renting, pick up your tux. Make sure your groomsmen, your father, and the ring bearer get their tuxes, too.
    If you’re renting or buying, double check that all the elements are included in the correct size: jacket, trousers, shirt, tie, vest or cummerbund, shoes, cuff links, and dress socks.
    If you will be dressing somewhere other than at home, pack up your outfit and grooming products today. You should gather:
    Hair products
    Cummerbund or belt
    Coat or jacket
    Cuff links and studs
    Dress shirt
    And last, but definitely not least, the wedding rings
    The Morning of the Wedding Day
    Get a close shave.
    Take a hot shower.
    Remember your deodorant! This might be a high-sweat day.
    Remember the rings. Place them in your pocket to entrust to your best man sometime before the ceremony.
    If possible, ask your mother to pin on your boutonniere. This mother/son moment will bring a tear to her eye.
    Breathe slowly and deeply, take one last look in the mirror, and get ready for your lovely bride’s entrance.

  5. 12-Month Wedding Planning Checklist

    You’ve said yes to the big question, now what? If you’re starting to become overwhelmed with the thought of planning your big day, sit down, take a deep breath and look over this 12-month planning guide. You’ll see that planning a wedding is simply a matter of getting organized. You can do it!

    11-12 Months Before the Wedding

    Officially announce your engagement.
    Your own personal wedding site is a great way to share the plans as they develop. Your out of town family and friends will definitely appreciate it!
    Set a time and date for the wedding.
    Decide style of ceremony (size, setting, formality, etc.)
    Contact wedding a officiate.
    Arrange for your families to meet if they haven’t met before.
    Develop a budget and decide who will pay for what.
    Begin compiling your guest list.
    Visit and reserve your reception site.
    9-10 Months Before the Wedding

    Order your wedding gown and determine who will make any necessary alterations.
    Choose your wedding party.
    Decide on a color scheme (consider the reception site).
    Meet with potential wedding professionals for your ceremony & reception. Interview local videographers, photographers, florists, DJs & Musicians, caterers, and bakeries. Be sure to get a contract that states wedding date, time, and location for each vendor, as well as the schedule for payments.
    Scout out accommodations for out-of-town guests.
    7-8 Months Before the Wedding

    Start shopping for wedding rings.
    Decide on honeymoon plans and take care of any special travel requirements such as passports or visas.
    Decide on and order attendants gowns.
    Order invitations and other stationery needs.
    1. Beautiful Wedding Invitations by Carlson Crafts
    2 Perfect Wedding Invitations by Checkerboard
    3. Thank you cards & Gratuity Envelopes
    Register for wedding gifts at select stores and online outlets. Don’t forget to register for shower and engagement party gifts as well!
    5-6 Months Before the Wedding

    Let your out-of-town guests know the date of your wedding so that they reserve the date and make any necessary travel plans.
    Find Save-the-Date cards & magnets at: Carlson Craft
    Complete guest list.
    Shop for and taste test the wedding cake.
    Select and reserve attire for men in the wedding.
    Determine marriage license requirements for the state in which you are getting married. (If in the US, contact the county clerks office; if abroad, the wedding coordinator will have this information.)
    3-4 Months Before the Wedding

    Finalize the menu with your caterer.
    Order wine, champagne, liquor, etc., if not included in the caterers service.
    Finalize flowers, including those needed for the reception decorations.
    Mail out information about hotels and city attractions to your out-of-town guests so they can make their plans.
    Order wedding favors.
    Order wedding rings to allow time for engraving.
    Begin working on vows, especially if you are writing your own.
    2 Months Before Wedding

    Finalize and book honeymoon.
    Mail out invitations.
    Do hair/make-up dry run, complete with your veil or headpiece.
    Book wedding day beauty appointments.
    Complete name change paperwork for bank accounts, insurance, etc.
    Finalize music play list.
    Finalize order of service and write the wedding program.
    Touch base with your florist, caterer, and DJ to confirm date and times, etc. Get their cell phone number if you don’t already have them.
    Book rehearsal dinner.
    Order wedding cake, if not ordered already.
    1 Month Before

    Order any rental items needed such as chairs, tents, lighting, if not included at wedding/reception sites.
    Purchase bridesmaid gifts.
    Purchase groomsmen gifts.
    Schedule final fitting for wedding gown. Remember to bring wedding shoes, veil, and proper lingerie needed.
    Purchase your accessories: guest book and pen set, ring pillow, flower girl baskets, unity candle, etc.
    Arrange for transportation needs for wedding party and out-of-town guests for the rehearsal and wedding day. Be sure to give the driver the addresses and schedules for all who will need transportation.
    2-3 Weeks Before

    Get marriage license. Call ahead to make sure you know what is required to bring.
    Organize any accessories needed such as ring pillow, flower girl basket, garter, and “something old, new, borrowed, and blue.”
    Contact guests who haven’t sent in RSVPs so that you can give the caterer a final headcount.
    Pick up wedding rings and check engraving before leaving the store. Store in a safe place!
    Confirm honeymoon hotel, airline reservations, and wedding night reservations, if not leaving until the next day.
    1 Week Before

    Pack for honeymoon.
    Host attendants party and give out gifts along with a thoughtful thank you note to each bridesmaid.
    Make final payments to vendors. Put gratuities in envelopes and arrange to have a trusted friend distribute the envelopes on the big day.
    Order gratuity envelopes here.
    1 Day Before

    Take a long walk or schedule a massage to reduce stress. Gather your thoughts and mentally prepare yourself!
    Greet out-of-town guests.
    Make some time for each other to exchange gifts and a congratulatory kiss (or several)!
    Attend rehearsal and rehearsal dinner.
    Get in bed at a reasonable hour so that you’ll look and feel your best for your wedding.
    Wedding Day

    Awake early and eat a good breakfast.
    Go to beauty appointments.
    Arrive at wedding site early enough to dress and to visit with bridesmaids.
    Allow enough time for photography.
    Relax, smile, and enjoy your well-organized day!

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  7. Hi, my name is Catherine and I loved reading this, it made me laugh. I’ve sent this to my boyfriend. we are getting married next year and he needs to pull his finger out and get organised.
    Are you available on 20th August 2016?

    1. Hi Catherine,
      I’m so glad you liked it, there is lots more including a brides checklist and lots more wedding related stuff here.

      I am sorry I am booked for another wedding on your date. I have passed your details to another photographer I highly recommend.

      If you need any more help please just let me know and i hope you have a fantastic wedding day and your fiancee gets into gear soon 😉 x

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