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Ellenborough Park Wedding – J&J.

Ellenborough Park Wedding.

This was my first same-sex marriage and what a lovely couple. I started the day with Jeana at her family home as she prepared for the day. At the same time, Jenny was at the beautiful Ellenborough Park where she had stayed the night before.

I have photographed many weddings at Ellenborough Park, I was there for a wedding the day before but had to join Jeana in Slough so I still had some driving to do.

Bridal preparation.

Jeana wore a more traditional Indian wedding sari for her wedding day were Jenny opted for the more western wedding dress.

Both brides looked beautiful in their individual style of dress and the scene was set for a beautiful ceremony.

Wedding ceremony.

The wedding ceremony was held in the chapel at Ellenborough Park. A simple and traditional registry office service. Both brides looked stunning.

After the wedding ceremony, the couple joined their guests in the grounds. The weather was perfect, a warm English summers day. As the newlyweds and their guests enjoyed the venue I took some candid photographs.

Throughout the day the guests were in very good spirits and made my job so much more enjoyable. A beautiful mix of east meets west and amazing weather at the every stunning Ellenborough Park wedding venue.

Same sex marriage.

As a wedding photographer, I love the unique diversity of every wedding I attend. This LGBT wedding was truly memorable and enjoyable for many reasons but probably most of all for the guests. I had so much fun all day. Like all my weddings I met new, fun and interesting friends.

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2 thoughts on “Ellenborough Park Wedding – J&J.”

  1. 7 Things No One Tells You About Planning a Lesbian Wedding

    So, as you may have noticed, gay weddings have been getting a lot of attention lately, and for good reason. With increasing frequency, many states across the U.S. are legalising gay marriage, and the recent repeal of DOMA requires all fifty states to recognized those marriages. *shoots confetti gun.

    My own totally gay wedding was quite timely, if I do say so myself, coming just a few months after DOMA got clotheslined this past June. My wife and I were also fortunate to live in New York, where getting gay-married has been legal since 2011. And while I certainly was never the type to plan out my future wedding in binders with colour-coded sections, I did want to have a ceremony and a reception in a fairly traditional manner (with a healthy dose of Brooklyn flair, of course). As it turns out, planning a big gay wedding shares many of the same hurdles as planning a straight wedding, but it can also carry a few unique experiences all its own. So, without further ado I present to you: Seven Important Things To Know About Planning a Lesbian Wedding.

    1. It still costs so much fucking money.
    Spoiler Alert: Your lesbian wedding will still cost you all the money you have and then some, unless you are getting married in a field of wildflowers owned by your grandfather and serving water and toast points. From the food to the drinks to the clothing to the décor and all the many things that you’ll never think of until the bill comes, planning a giant gay love party (aka a wedding) can put a serious dent in your bank account. Also, if we are going to talk about really traditional weddings, I am pretty sure the parents of the bride are supposed to pay, in which case good luck figuring that one out.

    But here’s a fun thing for us big gay-balls: Some vendors might just give you a discount for being totally gay. You think I’m kidding, right? I, too, thought the manager at Brooklyn’s Baked was kidding when he looked my future wife and I in the eyes and told us our cupcake order would be receiving a “same-sex discount” of 10 percent. Turns out some businesses are so excited by the newly passed laws of equality in this country that they want to celebrate right along with us. I’LL TAKE IT.

    2. You have to deal with all the same family shit, and then some.
    Creating an invite list is always hard. If you invite Aunt Betty then you’ll have to invite Uncle Ted, but then Billy, Sarah, and Chester will feel left out so where do you draw the line?! If you are a big gay, though, this invitation juggling act can be further complicated if there are people in your family who are less than pleased about your sexuality, and who may also be less than pleased about attending a gay wedding. Several members of my extended family weren’t so sure they could attend our ceremony because of religious beliefs, and I decided to leave it up to them. I invited the whole gang (Billy, Sarah, and Chester included), and sent as thoughtful an email as I could muster to those I knew weren’t as accepting. The note urged them to come only if they’d be comfortable, and to otherwise feel OK with sending their regrets. At the end of the day, you and your partner will probably want to be surrounded by the people who can celebrate freely with you, as this is, at its core, a day about your love for each other.

    3. Matching two dresses is IMPOSSIBLE.
    If you are both getting dresses, consider yourself warned: The colour white comes in approximately 4,589,274 shades, and only about three combinations therein look OK standing next to each other. I will tell you what, though: My wife and I decided to get our dresses from J.Crew and their sales associates were the most helpful, wonderful humans on planet Earth. They talked to me (over the world wide web, people, I didn’t even go into the store) about which styles were of interest and then (STILL ON THE INTERNET) they pulled those styles out to see how the different shades of white/ivory/beige/etc. went together. Brilliant. Fifty points for Gryffindor J.Crew.

    4. And suits can be just as tricky.
    If one or both of you wants to rock it out in a suit, you will also find out very quickly that many female-bodied humans have a hard time looking as badass as they want to in suits typically designed for male-bodied humans. NEVER YOU FEAR. Companies like Kipper Clothiers in San Francisco and Bindle & Keep in New York create custom-tailored suits for all-bodied humans, and will get you looking super-fly for the occasion.

    5. Bridesmaids don’t have to be maids.
    I am going to start this off by saying that I do not understand the rigid gender divisions that are often put on selecting bridesmaids and groomsmen. Are we really still in a place where we call women MAIDS, and where we all have close family and friends who are all the same gender as we are?! C’mon. I wholeheartedly believe that no matter the straightness or gayness of your wedding, if you want a wedding party, they should be the people (All genders!) closest to you. Which automatically takes out any complications of choosing the people you’d like to have in your party.

    6. BONUS: You do have a few more options for the décor.
    Everyone knows that the way you decorate a gay wedding is TOTALLY DIFFERENT than the way you decorate a straight wedding, right? *record screech* You guys … picking out the way you seat your guests, what colour napkins they are going to wipe their mouths with, and if you are going to use daisies in mason jars or wildflowers in watering cans is all the exact same no matter who you’re marrying.

    I will, however, say this. If you are looking for a little less-than-traditional flair at your kinda traditional wedding, there are some pretty fun ways to get a good chuckle in with your gay décor. May I present to you one of our favorite tongue-in-cheek decorations of my wedding:

    7. Is this shit even legal?!
    So, the biggest differential between straight and gay weddings is, obviously, the legality of the whole shebang (no pun intended). Right now, 18 states out of 50 have legalised gay marriage, and the remaining 33 prohibit gay marriage. However, this past June the defense of Marriage Act was repealed, which means that all states are required to recognize married couples, gay or straight, on a federal level. That means that now, my marriage in New York — which was previously legal in New York and recognized only in the states where gay marriage was also legal — is now legal in New York and must be recognized in any state in this country. When my wife and I went to get our marriage license at the City Clerk’s office in Brooklyn, we were one of four lesbian couples in line. Many couples have been waiting years — some decades — to have their unions legally recognized, and it is pretty incredible to be alive in a time when we are finally being afforded equal rights. You can read a whole bunch on theYou can read a whole bunch on the HRC website which can tell you more about DOMA and how it might impact you. Wheeeee!

    Three cheers for gettin’ gay-married to whomever you want, however you want. Am I right?!

  2. Your 3 Big Same-Sex Wedding Mistakes

    Same-sex wedding mistakes won’t be so unusual going forward, because same-sex marriage is here to stay. That means that there are a lot more lesbian and gay weddings being planned this spring, and maybe you’re part of the growing crowd.

    As a lesbian dating coach, I love to get invited to client weddings. I’ve got a connection in the wedding industry. I thought it might be a good time to talk about the biggest mistakes that people make in planning their weddings, so that I might save some of my gay and lesbian friends some wedding stress.

    I sat down with Ms. Chris Weber. She has 25 years of experience as a wedding planner and caterer, and that includes over 3,000 weddings — everything from weddings that Martha Stewart would approve of to something simple in a small backyard. Sure, most of those weddings have been for straight folks, but she’s done gay and lesbian wedding events also. Now she’s getting ready to do more for the gay and lesbian community, but in her own way.

    Ms. Weber, co-owner of Black Tie Catering in Portland, Maine, and her business partner Catherine Frost of Freeport, Maine, who is the owner of Folio Marketing, recently launched We do™ as a subsidiary of Black Tie Catering.

    We do™ is an inclusionary, progressive, style- and information-based online community for same-sex couples who are planning their weddings. We do™ is focused on being an inclusive service that goes beyond the traditional gay or lesbian wedding with a rainbow or Broadway show tune theme to take advantage of the years of experience that Black Tie, its expert staff and many vendor relationships can bring.

    I asked Chris how the idea for We do™ came about. She said:

    I don’t look at We do™ as a gay website. I asked myself, “What do people do these days when they propose?” This includes progressive heterosexual couples, and my daughter of 25 is included in that group. How did she and her boyfriend decide they wanted to get married? Well, they sat down one night and talked about it.

    Now, did he propose to her and give her a ring? He sure did. Long before she said “I do,” they had already said “we do.” That’s the way I look at a lot of couples that marry. Someone might propose, someone might say “I do,” but long before someone says “I do,” usually they said “we do” to each other.

    So then I asked Chris what she sees as the big mistakes that couples make when planning a wedding. What I loved about Chris’ answer is that she didn’t hesitate. She has seen it all: the good, the bad, the ugly and the beautiful of weddings.

    It was interesting to learn that Chris has already done 50 to 60 same-sex wedding events and found that they don’t differ much from heterosexual wedding events. So the mistakes we are likely to make won’t be very different either.

    Big Same-Sex Wedding Mistake #1

    The first mistake is that couples have too many expectations for their budget. It’s amazing how you can take a couple that eats out three nights a week and then ask them what their budget is to feed 200 people the type of food that they enjoy when eating out. The couple may say that they have a couple of drinks, get appetizers and an entrée and they’ll spend $75 a piece, but they want to feed their guests something similar for $30 a head.

    Chris notes:

    Then you bring them into reality; that’s often how I explain it. This is not a two-hour dinner for two people. It’s a six-hour event that starts with a wedding ceremony and then goes all the way through to the final goodnight, with everything in between. That includes a full meal, appetizers, hors d’oeuvres, cake, coffee and service. You want to rethink what you have available to spend on this event.

    In Chris’ business, the average catered wedding costs about $20,000 these days. That doesn’t include extras like a honeymoon, wedding dresses, tuxes and rings. That’s for the average number of people at a wedding, which is about 125. That’s about $150 per head for the event. That’s a big difference from $30 a head.

    Big Same-Sex Wedding Mistake #2

    Another big mistake is that very few couples getting married have run large events with a lot of people attending and a lot of separate moving parts that have to be coordinated. One potential problem that Chris noted was that many couples don’t have any idea how to plan out the timeline for a wedding.

    Chris shared:

    A couple will give us an itinerary they started working on their own. We have to tell them there is absolutely no way that one hour is enough time to have cocktails and hors d’oeuvres when you have over 150 people. Their guests are not going to come into the dining room quickly, because they just got there. People want a drink, and they want to visit with other guests.

    We’d have to shut down bars and cut everyone off to move people that fast. People will be in line, and we have to tell them, “No drinks, and go eat now.” Couples don’t understand itineraries, and letting an experienced wedding planner take care of your agenda is an important part of your wedding day going well.

    We’ve had couples that want the first course served at 7:10, second course served at 7:15. Exactly how are we going to serve 200 people the first course and then in five minutes clear and have the second course served? It can’t be done.

    Your Big Same-Sex Wedding Mistake #3

    Here’s the biggest and most important tip that Chris shared with me. It’s about being inflexible. Inflexibility is one of the worst things when you’re planning a wedding. You never get exactly what you want exactly how you want it.

    We have such romantic notions about weddings. When you’ve waited so long for the chance to get married, you can get overly attached to certain ideas that will only elevate your stress levels rather than allow you to relax and enjoy this very special day in your life.

    Chris notes:

    We really work with couples on keeping a positive attitude and being flexible. If you want, you can have the worst day of your life. I’ve never seen it happen, but I’ve seen some people try really hard to make it a bad day.

    Twenty-five percent of the couples and families we deal with are absolutely amazing, because nothing bothers them. These are probably people who have their priorities in order. So if their wedding cake melts on a hot day and we end up slicking a whoopie pie together for them, they laugh about it and enjoy the moment, as opposed to someone who is sobbing in a pile of tears because her cake melted.

    Are you going to look back and say, “My life was ruined because my wedding cake melted”? I hope not. At We do™ we take the concerns of our clients seriously, but we also try to bring a little humor and levity to situations that can’t be helped. That’s the nature of the wedding business; it’s challenging. Things do go wrong, and you have to know how to roll with the challenges, find an answer to the problem, just be relaxed and understand it could have been a lot worse.

    Chris convinced me that working with experienced wedding and event planners is one of the best things you can do to make your wedding day the special event you want it to be. If your budget allows for it, you won’t regret the value that comes from hiring an experienced company with a staff that knows how to make things work on such an important day.

    Three big things that can really mess up your gay or lesbian weddings plans can all be ironed out by using the right wedding event experts.

    Get your budget ironed out, get your itinerary working for you, and, most importantly, be prepared to be flexible about what you want and what is possible. Now make your plans and enjoy your very special day!

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