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  • Engagement shoot
  • Our full day coverage
  • 2nd Photographer
  • 40 Page boxed album
  • Edited digital image files.
  • Video slide show.

£2,700

Album Package

  • Our full day coverage
  • 40 Page boxed album
  • Edited digital image files.
  • Video slide show.

£2,200

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  • Our full day coverage
  • Edited digital image files.
  • Video slide show.

£1,450

We pride ourselves on giving outstanding wedding photography services, we are not just there to turn up on the day, take a few snaps, then send you a cd in the post.
We want to be involved in your wedding day and offer the very best service we can.

Before your wedding day:
  • Wedding consultation, no obligation to show you what we can do for your wedding day.
  • Wedding planning meeting to discuss the type of photographs you want.
  • Wedding day plan/timetable.
  • Pre-wedding photography session (option).
Your wedding day:

Our full days wedding coverage is generally around 10 hours and covers all the key events of the day as well as lots of informal candid photography throughout the days events.

  • Venue photographs.
  • Bridal preparation.
  • Groom getting ready (with second photographer).
  • Guest arrivals/pre ceremony.
  • wedding ceremony & vows.
  • Confetti walk.
  • Throwing the bouquet (optional)
  • Formal groups photographs.
  • Table decoration and room.
  • Wedding breakfast
  • Speeches & toasts.
  • Couples escape photo-session.
  • Cutting the cake.
  • First Dance.
After your wedding day

After your wedding day we will edit, colour correct and present your images looking their very best in your own online gallery and if you wish we will put a selection online for sharing via social media.
We will also:

  • Image editing
  • Colour correction
  • Wedding day web page
  • Image sharing on Social media
  • Design your wedding album.
  • Make changes to create your perfect wedding album.
  • Offer all you edited imaged in both printable and web ready format.
  • Source any printed media you could want
  • We will be there for your future.
  • Anniversary photoshoots.
  • Maternity photoshoots.
  • Newborn/baby photography.
  • Family portraits.
  • Christenings.
  • Any life events you want capturing.

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  2. hello hello lovely readers and I hope you don’t mind me popping in today – are we all getting excited about the Bank Holiday weekend? Fingers crossed the weather is a bit kinder to us though! However, I’ve got news for you today that will most certainly make the day brighter because the fabulous LOVE Bridal Boutique is holding an exclusive.

    LOVE Bridal Boutique really is something special and we’ve raved about their brilliance here before on Love My Dress. So, when you combine a multi-award winning boutique with the renowned US designer, Sarah Seven, you just know this is going to be an event not to miss.

    I strongly advise you to prepare yourself a hot beverage and a little snack before you read on lovelies, as I guarantee you’ll get hunger pangs when you view these delightful images by Kristian Leven Photography of the wedding of Alex – a chef, food writer, owner of The Hole in the Wall restaurant and a Masterchef finalist – and his beautiful bride Charlotte, who runs a content marketing team in London.They tied the knot on 20th June 2015 in Cambridgeshire at Childerley Hall; the perfect spot for a sprawling, relaxed, and street food-filled Summer wedding celebration.“We wanted to throw a huge summer party, outside in the summer sunshine, to thank all of our friends and family for being there for us throughout our lives. We had a lot to be grateful for; my mother died when I was 18 and I was given a huge amount of support by friends and family through that time – and Alex’s time on Masterchef and subsequent setting up of a restaurant definitely tested our relationships – so we wanted to use this celebration as a chance to say a heartfelt thanks to those we loved.”

    In her gorgeous Fur Coat No Knickers tea-length dress with long lacy sleeves, Charlotte rocked the ‘Gin & It’ style to a tee.“I had first clocked FCNK about three years previously during my work for a professional photography magazine, and always kept them at the back of my mind. I knew I wanted a shorter dress for dancing and to be able to move around freely.”

    Charlotte’s six beautiful maids wore short cream gowns by Closet London and their own shoes and jewellery.“I love Closet London dresses and knew I wanted something with sleeves, something structured and fun. These cream dresses popped up in a sale and were absolutely perfect, and suited all of my best women.”

    Charlotte tells the most beautiful tale of their little love story and I truly do believe in the theory that when two people are meant to be together, everything just feels right.“Alex and I met at university in Cambridge, and since graduation had kept in touch as part of a wider circle of friends. In 2007, I had to go to the Lakes for a photography shoot and arranged to stay with Alex (who lived in Manchester at that time) on my way up North. The night of my arrival he threw a dinner party for some friends and I helped to cook the feast – and that’s when we first thought ‘hang on…’. He started spending a lot more time with me in Cambridge – and just a few weeks later, he quit his job and we put in an offer on a thatched cottage just outside the city. Yep, we moved super speedily, but when you know it’s right, why wait?”

    “Six years later we were still in the cottage but joined by three chickens, two cats and a whippet named Toby. We’d been through a giant amount together – lots of travelling, a huge amount of eating, one quitting of job to go freelance as a writer and photographer (me), one life-changing experience reaching the final of Masterchef (him) and one founding of what is now considered one of the best restaurants in the UK (mainly him, though a little bit of me too!) – and through all the madness there was never a doubt that we just made sense. Alex got down on one knee on my 30th birthday, at the end of May in 2014, and we were married just over a year later.”

    “I wore Jo Malone’s ‘Orange Blossom’ layered with ‘Peony Blush Suede’ – I’d wanted to work orange blossom in somewhere as I’d read that this was a traditional bridal flower in the UK, so this fresh, citrus-inspired fragrance mixed with the softer blush scent seemed perfect for the summery day we’d planned.”

    With her hair in loose curls, by Heike Martin from Cambridge Wedding Hair, and pretty Kate Spade drop earrings, Charlotte added a pop of colour to her attire with a yellow belt and yellow Zara heels; found for a right bargain on eBay.“I wanted yellow heels and had seen a pair of Louboutins which I was all set to purchase, then one half-hearted search later, these totally gorgeous beauties popped up.”

    “I actually found my dress on my first visit to the Fur Coat No Knickers boutique – which was also the first shop I visited on the hunt – but felt that I should probably look at other ones. As with my relationship with Alex, I really should have trusted my gut on this and just gone with it!I loved the sleeves, the scoop-neck lace and the way the dress moved as I walked. It was perfect for the relaxed celebration that we’d planned.”

    The bride was driven to Childerley Hall by her dad in her beloved Figaro for the couple’s humanist ceremony. The original plan was to get married outside on Childerley’s lawns, surrounded by the garden’s summer flowers, with everyone sprawled around on rugs and low cushions, however an unfortunate spot of horizontal rain meant that everything was rapidly moved indoors. This certainly didn’t put a dampener on spirits at all, as the ceremony ended up being one of Charlotte’s favourite moments.“I got my dad to drive me over to the venue in my much-loved Figgy. I made my brother fold into the back for fun – lucky we did this, as he became chief umbrella holder through the rain.”

    “Alex’s outfit ended up being a panic-bought combination of Topshop and Reiss, grabbed about two weeks before the wedding. You’d genuinely never know. It worked quite well, didn’t it?The groomsmen wore their own chinos and white shirts, and we supplied the John Lewis kin ties and braces, and buttonholes to match. Again, it is amazing how well this worked. Adam (the best man) randomly decided to wear a dark waistcoat on the day, which went so well with Alex’s paler waistcoat.”

    “My dad walked me down the aisle to ‘Slow Show’ by The National, played by our band The Handlers.”

    “We had a Humanist celebration and Leigh Chambers, our celebrant, was totally wonderful – she got the tone perfectly right and was so supportive during the run up. And also coped admirably when a morning of horizontal rain meant we had to move the ceremony into Childerley’s barn.”

    “I was utterly delighted with the way it worked out: the more ‘formal’ setting for the ceremony (rows of chairs, us at the front) balanced beautifully with the informal remainder of the day – and when the sun did come out, halfway though the ceremony, the end of the barn lit up and glowed with the most astonishing light, perfectly framing us against the old wood of the walls.It couldn’t have been stage-managed better and what astonished me the most was that you wouldn’t have known the plan for the wedding was different until about twenty minutes before it started. The ceremony ended up being one of my favourite bits of the day.”

    “We had a reading from ‘Appetite’ by Nigel Slater – a section called “What goes with what” about ingredients that work perfectly together – and the poem ‘Love’ by Roy Croft. Unexpectedly, Alex chose the poem and I chose the foodie reading. We chose these because Nigel Slater books were where we doubled up when we combined our (extensive) libraries upon moving in together – and I love poetry, so wanted a piece read during our ceremony. This simply and perfectly summed up how I felt about Alex, and how he felt about me.”

    “My engagement ring is by Jennifer Meyer and our designer Louise from Harriet Kelsall in Cambridge created a beautiful set of rings that were to our own personal tastes, yet also neatly (and secretly) linked.”

    One of my favourite things about this wedding is the beautiful flowers, which work so well against the bride and bridesmaid’s dresses. Nothing beats bright pops of colour and the florist did a fantastic job.“Heather Carpenter originally supplied flowers for Alex’s restaurant, so she was my first and only choice and got my brief of hot, summer, bright, relaxed wild flowers absolutely bang on the money. I was completely thrilled with the bouquets she created for me and my ladies, and the arrangements for the tables in the barn, and everyone commented on how perfectly they matched the event.”

    Upon first sight of the couple’s photos by Kristian Leven Photography, I was immediately drawn in and actually felt I was part of Alex and Charlotte’s day. There’s so much life, laughter and emotion captured by Kristian in every photo – he is one exceptionally talented photographer and I’m certain we will be showcasing more of his brilliant work in future blogs.“Kristian was absolutely outstanding and I could not recommend him highly enough; he created a set of stunning, candid, filmic images that perfectly sum up our celebration. Everyone commented on how professional and friendly he was, and he never seemed to stop working – there were quite a few images where we couldn’t work out how he’d got to that angle without being in the way! Incredible work from an incredible guy.”

    “My very favourite part was the speeches held in Childerley’s barn with everyone standing and gathered around – it was just the most magical, hilarious, emotional bit of time.”

    The couple hardly needed to do any decorating of the venue due to the sheer beauty of the grounds and the gardens of Childerley Hall; simply adding pops of colour in the form of bunting and the bright table flowers. “Childerley and the gardens were so beautiful as they were that I didn’t want to detract from it – and also couldn’t work out how I could have added to it! We had bouquets from Heather for the barn’s tables, and then I’d bought a few strings of £1 paper bunting from Tiger because I loved the colours. I also borrowed some paler bunting from a friend and put this up in the meadow to lead people to Childerley’s gardens, and that is literally all we did.”

    “Our wedding invitations were done through Paperless Post and we didn’t have formal seating, so there was no table plan. I knocked up a tiny ‘menu’ for the day’s events a few days before the wedding (and accidentally ended up cutting out 2000 rather than the 200 we needed!). We had a Fujifilm Instax at the event to take our own silly photos and we got a beautiful Instax album from Etsy for people to pop them in and write notes. Since our wedding I’ve seen a lot of the photos on people’s fridges, so these sort of acted as unplanned favours.”

    “Dr Tim Kinnaird was in the finals of Masterchef with Alex and now runs a patisserie and celebration cake business in Norwich called Macarons & More. As a wedding gift to us he created a multi-layer cake of incredible flavours and decorated it in the same relaxed, summery way that matched the event. And it was utterly and totally delicious.”

    Continuing the celebrations into the night, the couple arranged Cambridge college band The Handlers to entertain the guests.“The band was absolutely outstanding. Everything was arranged in about two weeks before the wedding and they were simply brilliant; we couldn’t recommend them highly enough.We ended up dancing our first dance to ‘Dog Days are Over’ by Florence and the Machine and got everyone else involved – but as Childerley was so sprawling and many of our guests were outside tucking into street food, we didn’t have a huge audience for this dance, which made it all the more magic.”

    “As you would expect, food was hugely important to us and we were genuinely terrified of serving mediocre salmon (my main wedding nightmare was that people might be hungry) – so we binned the idea of a formal sit-down meal and instead got MF to provide post-ceremony canapés, then invited the finest members of Cambridge’s lively street food scene to drive their vans over and fill Childerley’s courtyard with foodie options for our friends. Steak & Honour handed out burgers, fries and hotdogs (and secret mac and cheese), The Wandering Yak offered veggie mezze boxes and falafel, Pata Negra provided huge platters of Parma ham, Manchego cheese and Marcona almonds on each of the tables and Jack’s Gelato created bespoke ice-creams for afters. Two barrels of ale were lined up in the courtyard, and Cambridge Wine supplied some stunning wine and fizz to accompany everything. As well as avoiding a sit-down meal, we also didn’t want to have formal place settings – we wanted people to wander and enjoy discovering the food, the bar, and the beauty of Childerley for themselves. This approach worked SO well – we saw people running excitedly from area to area, shouting about what they’d found and rounding up other guests to come eat the ice cream they’d discovered. People are still talking about the food nearly a year later. Hurrah!”

    Words of Wedded Wisdom

    “Don’t sweat the small stuff: people do not notice if you don’t have favours, or don’t have matching bunting and napkin rings.If you’re able to set the pace and style of your day, give people drinks and food before the ceremony. We had prosecco and cheese straws to greet the guests when they arrived and held a sort of half-hour drinks in the barn before the formal ceremony began – this perfectly set the tone and loosened everyone up for the fun and feasting ahead. So many of our guests commented on what a lovely touch this was and wondered why more people don’t do this!”

    I am speechless. Where do I start with how much I love Charlotte and Alex’s nuptials? The colour, the divine food, the relaxed and chilled vibe, Charlotte’s dress and her pretty maids, and the tears and laughter in the photos – everything is just absolutely beautiful. Thank you to the very lovely couple for allowing us a peep into your day and next time I’m in the UK I am taking a trip to Cambridge to dine in your restaurant Alex!And a special mention to Kristian for sharing these incredible images – they brought tears to my eyes and I so understand how it must feel when you meet lovely couples like Charlotte and Alex where their love and intense bond is evident in every picture.Here’s to a brilliant rest of week lovely readers.

  3. All eyes will be on the Bride and Groom at any wedding (as they should be), but that doesn’t mean you the wedding guest can’t look your best. But, when the invite arrives, how are you supposed to know the difference between black tie optional and black tie? Don’t worry—we’re breaking down the terminology (and giving you some killer outfit ideas) so you can look gorgeous and confident at any wedding.

  4. A sea of snaps from the Seewalds! Three days after Amy Duggar tied the knot to Dillon King, the bride’s cousin Jessa Duggar celebrated by…. posting a whopping 100 never-before-seen photos from her own November 2014 wedding to Ben Seewald on Tuesday, Sept. 8, including a pic of their first kiss which was exchanged in private.

    “We all had such a wonderful time at Amy’s wedding,” the Duggar family wrote on their official Facebook page, days after Amy and Dillon got married in an intimate ceremony this past Saturday, Sept. 5. “All of this excitement has caused Jessa to pull out her pictures from her wedding and post 100 of them on her website. Check out her album here which includes many never before seen pictures.”

    PHOTOS: Jessa and Ben’s romance

    The link features a slideshow of intimate photos from Jessa’s huge wedding held at the First Baptist Church in Bentonville, Ark., last November. Images include Jessa making the trek down the aisle with her dad, Jim Bob Duggar, before 1,000 congregation members, family, and friends there to witness the nuptials.

    Other snapshots hand-selected by Jessa feature the lovebirds standing at the altar as they exchange vows and rings. The slideshow also includes one photo of Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar praying with the bride and groom in a group huddle.

    Also included in the slideshow are Jessa’s many siblings, including her bridesmaids and sisters Jill Duggar and Jinger. One sibling, however, was noticeably missing from the mix: Last week, Jessa publicly turned her back on her beleaguered brother, Josh Duggar, who is currently in a long-term treatment facility in the wake of his cheating scandal.

    In the final few slides from the album, Jessa shared one standout photo. As previously reported, she and Ben opted out of exchanging a kiss at the altar, and shared one in private — which was captured by their wedding photographer.

    Jessa, 22, and her husband got engaged in August 2014 after 11 months of dating, and wed on Nov. 1, 2014. The two announced they were expecting their first child in April, and have been sharing weekly updates of her pregnancy.

    In a recent interview with Us Weekly, Duggar expressed her desire to have a big family — but not all biological. “Well, I’m not giving birth to that many, but we want to adopt,” the reality star told Us.

  5. We’re here! It’s officially holiday season, Cakies, and we’re kicking it off with a pretty gorgeous shoot in partnership with our friends at Crate and Barrel. This month we’re sharing a beautiful holiday-themed engagement party featuring some of our top picks for your fully outfitted barware registry. What? You don’t have a separate registry just for barware?! Well it’s certainly an essential part of any modern Wedding Gift Registry, if you ask us.

    Small tools like barware make perfect gifts for your engagement party. Maybe you haven’t thought about a Gift Registry for your engagement party? Well people are going to be bringing gifts, so you might as well guide them towards your style as a couple, even if you entire wedding registry isn’t complete yet. Add a few items from our essentials above like those lovely marble coasters and our favorite bar piece of all time, the Orb Copper Cocktail Shaker. And a bar tools set for sure too!

    And if you fall into the cocktail aficionado category like we do, take note of all the fun glassware you could have at home. There’s a glass for every drink and while you probably don’t need *all* of them, choose the vessels that go with the drinks you like to make best. Wine glasses for sure, champagne flutes (check!), a martini glass like the Jasper Cocktail Glass is fun, and a rocks glass is essential.

    And when speaking of cocktails, it would be cruel to leave out the actual drinks and recipes! Our friend Tal of Pharmacie made some of the most beautiful winter beverages around to inspire your upcoming celebrations. First up the Eskimaux in the Crescent Cooler Glass.

  6. The holiday season is famously known as “proposal season,” and Junebug Weddings wants to kick-off proposal season by showing you some of our favorite engagement rings from the last year. Whether you love bold, untraditional rings or elegant, traditional diamonds, these 11 engagement rings are sure to put you in the mood for a one-of-a-kind engagement session! For more inspiration, check out some of these engagement shoots to help plan the big proposal! Happy planning!

  7. Two seconds flat — that’s roughly how long it took me to fall in love with this incredible shoot from the talented team of Love By Serena, East Made Event Company, and Mobtown Florals. The unique color palette of copper, slate, and mustard works beautifully, while the bride positively shines in her Hayley Paige wedding gown. And let’s not forget that killer hairstyle, either!

    copper and slate autumn inspiration shoot – photo by Love by Serena

    From the event planner, Elizabeth of East Made Event Company: With this shoot, I wanted to bring modern, geometric elements into nature — the Japanese maple tree grove at Cylburn Arboretum in Baltimore provided such a unique location for this. I grew up in Baltimore City and many of the details I chose — the leather club chair, the copper lanterns, our model’s funky braided hairstyle — could easily fit into a modern/industrial city wedding but may not typically be used in a garden setting.
    slate grey wedding invitation – photo by Love by Serena http://ruffledblog.com/copper-and-slate-autumn-inspiration-shoot

    wedding braid detail – photo by Love by Serena http://ruffledblog.com/copper-and-slate-autumn-inspiration-shoot

    copper and slate autumn inspiration shoot – photo by Love by Serena http://ruffledblog.com/copper-and-slate-autumn-inspiration-shoot

    mustard bouquet – photo by Love by Serena http://ruffledblog.com/copper-and-slate-autumn-inspiration-shoot

    mustard boutonniere – photo by Love by Serena http://ruffledblog.com/copper-and-slate-autumn-inspiration-shoot

    geometric wedding details – photo by Love by Serena http://ruffledblog.com/copper-and-slate-autumn-inspiration-shoot

    wedding ceremony – photo by Love by Serena http://ruffledblog.com/copper-and-slate-autumn-inspiration-shoot

    geometric wedding details – photo by Love by Serena http://ruffledblog.com/copper-and-slate-autumn-inspiration-shoot

    dessert table – photo by Love by Serena http://ruffledblog.com/copper-and-slate-autumn-inspiration-shoot

    I was also interested in an alternative color palette — copper and slate are two colors currently on trend but adding mustard yellow brought a softer, more bohemian feel. Mustard yellow is one of my favorite colors and my husband wasn’t crazy about using it in our own wedding, so this was finally my chance! Our model’s gorgeous naturally red hair added a deeper dimension of classic yet modern glamour to this shoot. We were lucky on shooting day with the sun angles late in the afternoon and Serena from Love By Serena was able to capture some incredible shots on film.

  8. Kazzie Emrich’s wedding was perfect from start to finish, and she was thrilled to begin a new chapter of her life with her husband, Bill. “But once we got home from our honeymoon, I began to feel an overwhelming sadness that this amazing event I’d spent almost a year planning was over,” says the Chicago resident. “It was especially hard for me to attend weddings, showers and bachelorette parties, which I did a lot during my first year of marriage. Just seeing the giddiness of the brides made me feel sad—and envious. I even thought about my own mortality. As a girl, I had dreamed about my wedding and seen that day as a major life event that would happen way in the future. But now that it was over, it felt like an ending. The worst of the sadness lasted six months, but even now, three years later, I still haven’t thrown away my unused invitations, and my bouquet is still hanging in the kitchen, where I had placed it to dry out.”

    These feelings—you can call them the “bridal blues”—are common among newlywed women, and they can last anywhere from several days to many months, says Alison Moir-Smith, MA, a bridal counselor in Brookline, Massachusetts. What’s going on? “A wedding is physically and mentally all-consuming,” she explains. “It’s the focus of your life for a year or more and then it’s over in one night. After such a huge buildup, there’s bound to be a vacuum in your life.”

    While it’s normal to feel sad that your big day is over, say experts, wouldn’t you rather be excited about what lies ahead? Use these blues-busting strategies to ease the pain:

    Create a buffer zone
    Jetting off to Hawai’i the morning after your wedding sounds romantic. But a better plan is to schedule your departure for a day or two later. After the whirlwind of the big day, this will give you time to get some rest and accept the fact that the wedding you spent so many months planning is actually over. “We left for our honeymoon early on the morning after our wedding,” says Megan McDonnell, from New Fairfield, Connecticut, regretfully. “We went from this amazing feeling of having so many people around us the night before to being alone. If we’d stayed an extra day, we could have enjoyed being with our family and friends a little longer and relived the fun of the wedding with them. The finality of it would have felt less abrupt and harsh.”

    Pad your trip on the tail end, too
    Similarly, don’t rush right back to work the second you return. “It’s hard to go from this once-in-a-lifetime event where you were the center of attention, followed by your exciting trip as a newlywed couple, back to the routine of everyday life where you’re just part of the pack,” says Moir-Smith. A few extra days at home will ease the transition.

    Talk to your husband
    When you feel sad, open up to your spouse. It’s possible he may have similar feelings, says Moir-Smith, and the sharing will bring you closer. “Today I actually see my case of the blues as a positive thing because my husband was incredibly supportive the whole time,” says Megan.

    Plan ahead
    “One reason a bride may feel down is that for so long she has something to look forward to and then suddenly she doesn’t,” explains Barbara Becker-Holstein, Ed.D., a psychologist in Long Branch, New Jersey. “This can leave her feeling empty and lost.” Your calendar won’t seem so bleak if you schedule things for after your wedding, like a mother-daughter spa day or an apple-picking excursion with friends. Even better: During the wedding planning, keep a running list of things you want to do but don’t have time for amid all the meetings with florists and caterers—a book you want to read, a new restaurant you want to try, a weekend trip you’d like to take with your husband. That way, you won’t feel you’re filling up your time with distractions later on.

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